Things You Shouldn't Ever say to a Grieving Mother and Things you Should Always Remember

Things to Not Ever Say to a Grieving Mother:

1. you can always have another baby... ummm hello yes cause it's the same thing as getting a new dog when your old one gets hit by a car... NO!! So what if I can have another baby (and you don't know if they actually can have another baby) that baby will NEVER replace the baby I lost.

2. Well at least you had them for xxx (days, months, years, minutes)...what's your point?? It was never long enough, the time I had will never be long enough.

3.I know how you feel, I lost (insert mom, dad, cousin, grandparent and worst of all dog's name in here). Granted I've never lost a sibling, my mom is still here, my husband is still here...but there is no loss comparable to a child. Especially DONT COMPARE YOUR LOSING YOUR DOG TO ME LOSING MY CHILD!!

So those are just a few of the things people have said that have made me want to rip their hearts out of their body and stomp on them.

Now onto things I wish people would remember...

1. I want my son acknowledged. He was here dammit, please don't even begin to think that by not mentioning him will make me not as sad or not put me in anymore pain. It hurts me more when you don't mention him. Jeez folks-- I've had 4 boys, not 3! 4 boys although one isn't here anymore I have had 4 boys.

2. It hurts and it will ALWAYS HURT that he isn't here. Time isn't going to make that go away. Honestly for me sometimes it hurts worse because of how much time has gone by since I held him last.

3. I am NOT the same person.

4. When you fail to mention Jacob or pretend he never existed you HURT ME more than you'll ever know!